Making the Most of Milestones

1255“I’ll be 30 in two weeks and still haven’t figured out what I really want to do with my life!”

This was the conversation I had with my dental hygienist last week. She told me that she has a good job, it pays the bills, but it felt like there was something missing. That she wanted do something more creative with her life but didn’t know what it was.

As a coach who works with people in transition, I hear this all the time. The milestones and turning … Continue reading

Part 5 – Bringing Your Vision To Reality

Welcome to the final post about Creating a Vision for the next chapter of your life/work.  It’s been fun to share what I’ve learned over the years from my experiences and from supporting others in successfully navigating the transitions of their lives.  Today we’ll look at steps you can take to begin to bring your vision to reality.

Look at it. Keep your vision close and look at it regularly so you can be reminded and re-inspired.

Talk about it. Share your vision for your life and/or work with people close to you…your partner, … Continue reading

Part 3 – Creating Your Vision

Are you ready to create your vision?  In the first two parts of this series we looked at whether it’s Time for a New Vision, and Preparing to Create Your Vision.  Now it’s time to actually do it!  I like to break down the creation into two steps: 1) Reflection/Journaling and 2) The Final Form.

Sitting down for reflection and/or journaling is a big step forward as you begin to create the next chapter of your life or work.  So make sure you have plenty of time and space for this undertaking.  Choose a location … Continue reading

Part 2 – Preparing To Create Your Vision

Welcome to Part 2 in a series on Creating a Vision for the next chapter in your life or work.  (Check out Part 1 if you missed it before.)  Once you’ve decided to create a vision for your next step, you just sit down and do it, right?  If you can, that’s awesome and you should absolutely go for it!  But for me, I’ve found that there are important steps of exploring possibilities, creating space, and acknowledging monkey mind before I can get to the writing of my vision.

First up: Exploring Possibilities. For me, the … Continue reading

Time for a New Vision?

Since mid-college I’ve always had some type of vision statement in place about my life and work.  So imagine my shock when I pulled out my most recent vision statement in mid-July and found it had expired in June!

It’s not like me to be without a vision, so the realization that I didn’t have a clear path forward was incredibly uncomfortable.  But this break has actually been necessary.  The summer has been chock full of endings, marking the end of my first four years as a coach, my daughter starting kindergarten, and two very good friends … Continue reading

Endings…and New Beginnings

This summer has ushered in big changes for the Hedley House.  My two best mom friends (and their kids, my daughter’s best friends) are moving away (sniff!).  These are the people who drop by anytime and you’re always happy to see them, the families where everyone gets along – moms, dads, and kids.   We’ve had so many good times in the five years since our kids were born, and now it’s time to say “good-bye”.

Since I learned these changes were coming, it’s been really easy to fall into a “woe is me” mentality where I spend … Continue reading

Wisdom in Young Ones

Since summer I’ve been living more consciously in tune with the seasons, delving into the energies of summer and autumn and reflecting on the experience.  As we moved into winter I was expecting quiet, rest, reflection, and a bit of hibernation.  I wasn’t quite ready for death to show up so literally for my family.  But it did, and over the holiday season we experienced the passing of my mother-in-law.

Amidst the grieving and the myriad of details to attend to, I am simply amazed at how my four year old daughter is coping.  Somehow she seems … Continue reading

On Transitions and the Neutral Zone

Ahhh…the “neutral zone”, described by William Bridges as the in-between place where the old way is no longer working, and the path forward is not yet clear.  I was reminded last week by clients, friends and life just how uncomfortable the neutral zone can be.  And unfortunately, you can’t hurry through this stage of transition – you will emerge when it’s time.

This, of course, is easier said than done.  We seem to be programmed to want the answers (now!) and to be moving forward (quickly!).  But when we are in the neutral zone, the best approach … Continue reading

Lessons from My Garden

Over the years I’ve learned many lessons from my gardening endeavors, and I see important life lessons reflected in my garden.  Here are the highlights of what I’ve learned so far on this journey:

  • Savor What Is Thriving. When your garden is in bloom, savor and enjoy it.  Likewise with life…savor the times when you’re energized by your work, when you find yourself surrounded by good friends, or when you and your family are blessed with good health.  These good times are fleeting, making it even more important to recognize and appreciate them when they appear.
  • Identify … Continue reading